9 Responses to “Dealing with a Disobedient 3 year old?”

1. best momma says:

   May 6, 2009 at 3:01 am

   she is a child. Let her do what she wants! I really cannot stand regulations put on children. Let them live and grow and become individuals.
2. Stef says:

   May 7, 2009 at 4:29 pm

   Try talking to her? Following through is very important, time outs, taking a toy away that she likes for a certain amount of time. Also, compliment her when she is doing something right, this will re-inforce positive behavior and you will have a better chance of less problems from her. Reward good behavior as well.
3. Kat says:

   May 8, 2009 at 6:16 pm

   This is fairly typical behavior.Three year olds are very stubborn. They also do a lot of things to get attention. It would be a great idea for you and your girlfriend to take some parenting classes together. They can be fun and you get so much information about how to do deal with many parenting situations. Most communities have them for free.
4. beachchick08 says:

   May 10, 2009 at 1:40 am

   Time out
   Take toys or tv away
   Make her play alone if she can’t get along with others
   Sticker chart for good days, after so many get a prize
   Explain to her why her behavior is inappropriate

   Only give her one or two warnings, she doesn’t need to be told 100 times. She might think it is funny to test you, many kids start testing limits around 2 or 3, so it is important to show her that she must listen and obey the rules or get punished.
5. April says:

   May 13, 2009 at 6:22 am

   Consistency is what you need. She is challenging to 2 of you to do something. She wants discipline and you’re not giving it to her. That doesn’t mean you have to ***** her. Try the time out thing. When she’s told not to do something and then looks right at you and does it anyway, it’s time to take her, eye to eye tell her that because she didn’t listen, now she will have to sit in time out, then put her in time out for 3 minutes. At the end of the 3 minutes, she needs to apologize for her behavior.

   Consistency is key. She needs discipline in her life now so that she’s not an out of controlled teenager in 10 yrs.
6. J J says:

   May 15, 2009 at 2:48 am

   Taking away toys has been successful for me in the past. It might seem mean, but it works. I have literally emptied my childrens entire rooms, so that they were left with only one favorite toy. They then had to earn back their things. We also stopped spoiling them. That means, no “happy meals” from mcdonalds, they get stuff from the $ menu, no candy, cookies, no special treats. Also making sure they get their naps helps. It is really important that you get you kids in line when they are young, b/c it will only get worse.
7. Jennifer U says:

   May 17, 2009 at 10:23 am

   that is normal for a three yr old i have a almost 4, 2, and 6mo boys and the two older ones do the same thing. she is just testing her boundary’s, the only thing i think you can do is put her in time out and tell her its not ok. you will do this many many many times but eventually she will listen
8. marinebandwife says:

   May 19, 2009 at 4:42 pm

   3 IS the age this happens. Totally normal. Time outs, keep your cool. Remember your an adult, and don’t punish our of anger. You need to teach her how to be level headed, which a 3 year old is not. Yelling and hitting isn’t always the answer. Plus… usually if a child isn’t getting mentally stimulated or paid enough attention to they act out. Try doing some more activities with her like singing songs, drawing pictures together and praising her for being nice to her sister. Positive attention could fix more than you think.
9. Jeff N says:

   May 20, 2009 at 10:01 pm

   What she is doing is worse than being disobedient. It’s outright defiance. She needs a swat or 2 to the ****.